On this episode of Pillars Of Grief, we delve deeper into the multifaceted aspects of grief and loss. Host Jock Brocas welcomes guest Dr. Charlson Gaines, as they explore the profound impact that relationships and connections have on our self-perception and self-worth. They explore how losing a friend can lead to a loss of self-worth and negatively affect our mood, happiness, appetite, and sleep. Dr. Charlson shares his personal experience of not initially recognizing his own experience as grief until they noticed the effects on their overall well-being.
They discuss the significance of losing someone they held in high regard and the ripple effects it had on their life. Jock and Dr. Charlson encourage viewers to provide feedback and suggest specific topics they would like to be discussed. They invite viewers to subscribe to the podcast and leave reviews to help others discover it. To provide further support, the episode invites viewers to join an online support community for grieving individuals. Dr. Charlson concludes, expressing hope for viewers to find spiritual realization through their grief. Throughout the conversation, Jock and Dr. Charlson emphasize the importance of acknowledging the emotional and physiological reactions tied to events. They highlight that grief is not solely about losing a loved one but also about losing a part of oneself. They share the example of an Air Force retiree who faced a loss of identity after 27 years of service, underscoring the diverse nature of grief. The episode also draws attention to the varying responses individuals receive when opening up about their grief. Some respond with compassion, while others dismiss the struggle.
This complex discussion challenges societal preconceptions of grief, expanding the understanding beyond the loss of a loved one and death. Jock and Dr. Charlson invite listeners to send in questions for further discussion and clarification. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion in the journey of self-discovery and identity realization. Recognizing that the process is different for someone in their mid-40s compared to a teenager, they advocate for self-compassion to embrace healing and seek support from friends. The episode highlights that seeking help for emotional pain should not be stigmatized.
Dr Gaines emphasizes that emotional pain, like a broken arm, requires assistance and should not be a cause for embarrassment. They explore the connection between the material world and the spiritual realm, emphasizing the need to blend these aspects for holistic healing. Jock discusses their work as a medium and the importance of raising their vibration to communicate with loved ones on the other side. They stress the continued spiritual connection between partners even after separation. They highlight the yearning of souls and higher selves for expression, peace, harmony, and love. The episode explores the duality of the material world and the absence of karmic imbalance in the spirit world. As the episode comes to a close, Jock expresses excitement about future discussions and encourages listeners to ask questions and share their concerns. They reflect on society's lack of vulnerability, which hinders connections and the expression of emotions.
They propose hugging as a means to foster self-love and connection with others.
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